Dear Dave Matthews Band -
You have been an inspiration to me for many years. Like way more years than I want to admit, because that would really show my age ;)
But I can specifically remember losing the first pregnancy. I remember most people wanted to ignore it. Or tell me it would be alright. Except it wasn't going to be alright. I had made up my mind that I wanted that child more than anything else and would protect it. And here I couldn't even protect it from my own body. I remember driving under the "Whale Wall" here, sobbing, listening to "Lie in our Graves" and suddenly it hit me. I couldn't spend the rest of my days mourning. I was letting life pass me by. It was OK to mourn, to be sad at the loss of life. But I needed to celebrate it too.
And I'm not going to lie and say I was suddenly OK, but it let me start to move on. To not be focused on the loss, but rather what was to come.
So thank you for that.